Forgiveness

This is somewhat of a tough topic for me. I say this because at times I can be very spiteful. Sometimes I do not want to forgive others. Sometimes those others don’t deserve my forgiveness. An apology does not always clear up the damage that has been done. Time does not always clear up the damage that has been done either. Accepting an apology is not always easy to accept. A lot of thought goes into an apology. Even if an apology is given 8 months later it should still be respected not necessarily forgiven.

            Forgiveness is not something that should just be handed out. To forgive you need to have some type of reassurance. The person who has done wrong needs to confront you about there wrongdoing and. If you feel that they are worthy of forgiveness they shall receive it. I am usually not easy to forgive. Being a forgiving person does not make you a push over. If someone is forgiving all of the time then they become a push over. It lets other know that they can push you around without any consequence.

            I know how this feels because I used to let it happen to me when I was younger I was to kind and forgiving. Now I don’t take any crap from anyone. No one should be too forgiving and no one should be non-forgiving. Not having any forgiveness is unhealthy. It just means you are an angry spiteful person. No one likes an angry person. Forgiveness is a key factor in society. You can not have to much of it and to little of it. I am still trying to find that healthy median that should be achieved.

            There are times in my life where I have forgiven people. I forgive someone at least one time a week. It is only human nature to mess up. There are other times in my life where I still have not forgiven people. I feel that at the moment they do not deserve my forgiveness. I actually have forgiven everyone in my life except for maybe one or two people who shall remain nameless. Sometimes an apology does not make up for the action that was done.

            No matter what someone may call me or do to me I usually forgive them. It all depends on the person who said it and if they truly meant it. I do not like it when someone says something about my family and they do not know them. Do not attack my family or heritage that will set me off. There will be no time for forgiveness. You will most likely be on the ground before you can say you are sorry. Now I have had one of my friends say something about my heritage before and he was not joking around like usual. He seemed pretty serious. I was pissed off and in the end he apologized. He did not mean to call me what he did he was angry and I forgave him for it. Someone else would not get a second chance.